Vaginismus

What is Vaginismus?

Vaginismus is the experience of vaginal tightness that causes pain, burning, cramping, spasms, and difficulty or inability to receive vaginal penetration. Women who experience vaginismus may also experience fear, general anxiety, avoidance of certain activities including sex, and protective behaviors.

Causes and What We Know

These protective behaviors may include muscular guarding or clenching of the muscles in the pelvic floor, buttocks, hips, thighs, neck, chest, and shoulders. While health care providers may do certain tests and procedures such as ultrasounds or lab testing to rule out disease, these tests will come back negative in women with vaginismus.

Once it has been determined that vaginismus is the diagnosis, there are gentle and non-invasive treatment methods that are helpful prior to or during the use of vaginal dilators. This includes pelvic physical therapy, a specialized form of physical therapy done with a highly trained pelvic physical therapist.

Counseling and other forms of therapy are also beneficial depending on the woman’s goals and individual needs.

 

Common Symptoms of Vaginismus

⦁    Sexual pain with no known cause
⦁    Inability to tolerate vaginal penetration for sex, medical exam, or tampon use
⦁    Vaginal burning or stinging with sex
⦁    Muscle spasms around the vagina with attempted sex
⦁    Unconsummated marriage

Why Does Vaginismus Make Sex Painful?

Vaginismus creates difficulty with vaginal penetration due to an involuntary contraction of the pelvic floor muscles. The pelvic floor muscles support the pelvic organs including the bladder, uterus, and bowel.

These muscles surround the vaginal opening, and women who experience vaginal pain during penetration often experience severe tightness of these muscles.

This Tightening is Involuntary 

Women with vaginismus don’t intentionally tighten or restrict the muscles, rather it is a reflexive response. This makes penetration difficult or impossible. When intercourse is attempted, it can feel like a partner is crashing into a brick wall causing extreme pain, frustration, and sadness for both partners.

Friction within the relationship is commonly experienced in couples with this issue. Counseling and therapy (marital, couples, or sex) are highly recommended. By participating in both the physical and mental aspects of training, while simultaneously receiving support from a counselor or therapist, couples learn new skills to support each other.

Often, a male partner simply does not know how to best support his female partner when vaginismus is involved, which can lead to further distress for both partners.

The good news is that this condition is fixable. Retraining the muscles to relax takes time. Many women who experience vaginismus experienced abuse, rape, surgery, radiation, or a traumatic experience that preceded vaginal pain with penetration.

For this reason, counseling may be beneficial while working on training the body. Anxiety, stress, pain, and fear of pain often reinforce the symptoms of vaginismus.

The process of curing vaginismus involves learning to sense when the muscles spasm, and training the brain to relax them prior to the contraction starting.
 

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Breathing Exercises for Vaginismus and Vaginal Pain

Learning to breathe properly is an important part of healing pelvic and vaginal pain. Many women with pelvic pain breathe shallowly and into their chests. By learning to breathe through the diaphragm, it is possible to improve overall circulation, reduce strain on the pelvic floor muscles, and reduce tension in the neck, head, and shoulders.

In order to breathe properly, practice the following exercises. It is often best to couple this training with vaginal training. Perform this breathing method prior to using the vaginal trainers daily. To start, find a comfortable position lying down. Often, it is helpful to put pillows or a bolster under the knees to reduce tension in the lower back.

Place one hand on the chest bone and the other on the stomach. The goal during this breathing exercise is to keep the chest still but allow the stomach to rise and fall with the breath.

Breathe in slowly and deeply through the nose, allowing your stomach to gently rise, keeping the chest still. Exhale gently through the mouth, allowing the stomach to gently fall. Pay close attention to your stomach rising and falling as you breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth.

Continue to take nice, slow breaths as you allow all thoughts and disruptions to fade away. Visualize the tension in your body being released as your body relaxes.

Practice releasing tension in your body, specifically in the pelvic floor muscles and the muscles around the vagina. To do this, begin by focusing attention on your feet. The feet share common nerves with the pelvic floor, so it is helpful to practice noticing the muscles in your feet clenching and unclenching.

Maintain your breathing pattern and clench your toes on both feet as hard as you can, making a “fist” with your feet for about 5 seconds. Then let them completely relax. Next, clench them only halfway – give a 50% effort to clenching your feet – again for 5 seconds. Then allow the muscles to completely relax. Notice how different they feel relaxed compared to clenched.

Next, do the same thing with your gluteal muscles, or buttocks. Maintain your breathing (do not hold your breath) and clench your buttocks together as hard as you can for 5 seconds, and then relax. Do it again at 50% effort for 5 seconds, and then relax.

Take note of the difference in sensation in clenched versus relaxed. Next, do this with the pelvic floor muscles. Contract them as hard as you can as if you were shutting off the flow of urine, and then relax. Really note the sensation of relaxation in your muscles after they have clenched and then relaxed. Now perform a 50% effort contraction.

Take note of the difference in effort between clenching and relaxing.

Bring your attention to your abdominal muscles. Keep breathing and contract these muscles as hard as you can by pulling your belly button in toward your spine. Hold for 5 seconds and then relax. Repeat this contraction at 50% effort, pulling the belly downward, and hold for 5 seconds, and then relax. As you relax, notice how it feels to allow the muscles to be still compared with how they felt when they were clenched.

Finally, notice the tension around the shoulders, neck, and jaw. Maintain your breathing and press your head slowly back and lift your shoulders toward your ears. Hold this for 5 seconds, and then relax.

Contract those muscles again, only this time at 50% of your strongest effort, and hold for 5 seconds and then relax. Notice the sensation of the muscles when they are fully relaxed. Continue breathing deeply into your belly for a few more minutes to conclude your practice.

This exercise of clenching, unclenching, and noticing the sensation of relaxation is important because it gives your brain information. This information allows you to be more aware of clenching patterns that may arise throughout your day during times of stress, anxiety, or pain.

Having the ability to unclench the muscles and breathe allows you to, little by little, decrease the clenching pattern over time. The goal is this: if the muscles begin to clench, your brain will notice immediately because it has learned to monitor this pattern, and it will then relax the muscles.

NOW YOU CAN FEEL BETTER THAN EVER!

Use this training program with a vaginal dilation trainer. For vaginal or pelvic dilation to address vaginal pain, vaginitis treatment, or pelvic exercise following gender affirming surgery, buy your vaginal dilator set online at Intimate Rose.  

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